They Had Deodorant Waiting: A Masterclass in Removing Customer Effort 3r conversation control method clear communication customer effort customer experience customer experience design customer service customer service training de-escalation friction healthcare customer experience myra golden patient experience reducing customer effort Jun 29, 2026

I left my mammogram appointment today the way I leave it every year, a little amazed at how easy they made it. Same clinic, same yearly visit, and every time the morning runs like it was designed by someone who thought about me before I arrived. Because it was. What looks like a smooth hour is act

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How to Respond When a Customer Starts Crying 3r conversation control method 3r operating system crying customer customer experience customer service customer service training de-escalation difficult customers emotional regulation empathetic de-escalation myra golden soft tonality anchors the power of silence verbal cushions Jun 29, 2026

Most customer service training prepares you for anger. Almost none of it prepares you for tears. Everything changes the moment a customer stops shouting and starts crying. The script you were trained on goes quiet, and human biology takes the wheel. This is where empathetic de-escalation lives, in

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10 anti-inflammatory phrases that calm an angry customer fast. 3r conversation control method agonistic buffering anti-inflammatory words calming angry customers contact center training customer de-escalation customer experience customer service phrases customer service training de-escalation phrases de-escalation training difficult customers what to say to an angry customer Jun 17, 2026

An AI taught me the most disarming word in customer service. When I am frustrated with the AI I work with every day, I correct it, and sometimes I vent. It never matches my energy. It does not get defensive. It says one word, "Understood," tells me what it is doing next, and fixes the thing. Every

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AI Role-Play for De-escalation Training: Inside the 3R Lab 3r conversation control method ai role-play call de-escalation contact center training customer experience customer service training de-escalation skills de-escalation training difficult customers live virtual training myra golden virtual customer service training Jun 13, 2026

There is a customer in my training room who does not exist. She joins the breakout room already hot, a 5 out of 5 on my intensity scale. She talks over the agents, demands a supervisor, and threatens to take it public. The four people in the room have one job: bring her from a 5 down to a 1, togethe...

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Preparing Your Customer Service Team for AI Agents: A CX Leader's Playbook agentic ai ai agents ai agents customer service ai and human teams ai employees ai in contact centers ai in customer service ai workforce contact center leadership contact center management contact center training customer ai manager customer experience leadership customer service training cx leadership future of customer service future of work preparing customer service teams for ai the future of customer service Jun 03, 2026

The industry calls them AI agents. I call them an AI workforce. That is not a small distinction, and I want to start here, because the word you choose shapes how your team feels walking into this change.

When you say "AI agents," your frontline hears "the thing that replaces me." When you say "AI

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The Job Title That Tells You Where Customer Service Is Going ai and human teams ai in customer service. contact center leadership contact center training customer service customer experience leadership customer service training de-escalation training for customer service the future of customer service May 30, 2026

Section Manager.

I had no idea what that meant. So I asked. And here is what I learned, at least at that company. A Section Manager did not manage people. No direct reports. What you managed was a process or a function. In my case, I was a Training Section Manager. I researched, designed, and built...

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How to Reduce Escalations and Long Handle Times in Customer Service customer service skills customer service soft skills customer service training de-escalation techniques de-escalation training difficult customers Nov 18, 2025

Every day, your customer service team faces emotional customers, long handle times, and stressful escalations. One frustrated caller can disrupt not only the customer experience, but also the emotional state of your employees for the rest of the day.

As leaders, we want our teams to stay calm, take...

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Stop Training for the Sake of Training: What Do You Want Your Team to Know, Feel, and Do? customer service training customer service training design Jun 23, 2025

Have you ever sat through a training session and wondered, "What's the point of all this?" You're not alone. As customer service professionals, we're often bombarded with training that feels more like a checkbox exercise than a genuine opportunity for growth. But what if I told you there's a simple ...

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